Life Choices
COMMUNICATING ABOUT END OF LIFE
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Introduction to communicating about the end of life
It's often difficult to think about dying, let alone talk about it. But the only way to ensure your wishes are fulfilled is to communicate with clergy, family and physicians.
Putting your wishes in writing can relieve a tremendous burden for your loved ones. Imagine the stress and sadness your family members may experience when you become injured or ill. Now imagine the added burden on them if you have not communicated your wishes.
Having these important conversations now will save heartache down the road. The way in which you want to die is a very personal decision. Begin by thinking about your personal feelings about your death. A work sheet to help you starts on page 9. Research your options. Talk with your health care provider, minister and family.
Once you have a clear picture of your wishes, share them with your family, friends and doctor. An excellent way to communicate your wishes is to complete an advance directives form on page 15. It includes a durable power of attorney for health care choices and health care choices directive.
This document should not be construed as legal advice or as an endorsement of any particular form. While the form in this booklet can be completed without using an attorney, you may wish to consult a private attorney.
Keep in mind that even though your wishes are in writing, it may be difficult for others to understand them. That's why it is so critical to talk with your family. Having this conversation will lessen the pain, doubt and anxiety for your loved ones as you near death.
While there is no right way or right time to start a conversation about the end of life with your family, these tips may help you get started:
While there is no right way or right time to start a conversation about the end of life with your family, these tips may help you get started:
- Describe someone else's experience.
- Say your attorney urged you to have the conversation.
- Use the work sheets.
- Write a letter or make a tape or video describing your wishes. Have your family review it before you talk.
Your family may resist having the conversation; it's often difficult to contemplate the loss of a loved one. Stand your ground about the importance of talking about dying and bring up the consequences of putting off the conversation. It also may help to have someone be your spokesperson and lead the conversation. In the end, you all will have greater peace of mind.
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